When I was a teen, I didn't know my father.  He was always in the family I just had my own take on who he was.  It turned out that I was wrong.  Like so many men of his generation he was bound by society to be a "man".  He fought not only as a soldier in Europe during the second world war but as a 16 year old he lied about his age and joined the merchant marine and served in the Pacific theater a…