Go Ask Alice – The Saga of a Personal Ad Divorce

                      This is a true story about someone that was near and dear to me



Alice read the personal ads that had been thrown down on the floor by the bed. She knew that Bob’s mind was living somewhere else these days besides inside their 2 story home. Putting on her glasses she slowly began to read them until one grabbed her by the throat and did not let go.



"Attractive athletic guy with a fun down to earth personality and married seeking an attractive married lady in my same or similar situation. I am not looking for a divorce or to be a home wrecker only looking for an attractive married lady who understands that I am NOT available to go out on weekends and usual times that people date."



It seemed that was her husband and his very organized life had allotted no tom foolery on the weekends as they practically lived at the country club. God forbid he lose his social status on his way up the society ladder.


Night after night after she had read that very first personal ad, he failed to come home after work until almost dawn. Alice listened to excuse after excuse until one day she could take no more. She filed for divorce and threw him out of the home that she would ultimately lose six months later because she could not pay the mortgage. He continued to send her emails screaming of the love he still had for her along with missing his beloved home. Bob continued to speak about his needs and wants in the personal ads and one day she read the following and again knew it was him.


Losing these (.) (.) in the Divorce

Yep, we are losing the house, she took the car, our credit is in the toilet and all I miss about her is the TWINS - those luscious 40DD beauties.


After she read that she was disgusted she had lost so many years with him as it was obvious he only seemed to miss her boobs. Bob continued to drag the paperwork and the lawyers were costing more than anything they had ever saved. Alice was now living with her mother at the age of 41 and each day crawled by with emails from lawyers and more delays. Finally Bob promised her an ending if she gave him some first edition books that he wanted. Alice agreed as she would sell her soul to put an end to this dragging divorce.


She dressed that day with care in hopes of finally celebrating the end of a relationship with someone she now hated. Alice sat down on one side of the table and he sat on the other. The piercing dark looks they exchanged said it all. He wanted more and demanded the only thing she now had left. If she gave him her car then and only then would he would finalize the divorce. Alice was in a rage as she walked down 23 flights of stairs and wondered what she had initially seen in him.


The next day as she glanced at the personal ads she read the following:


Today in Divorce Court on the 23rd floor.

This is a long shot but I'll give it a try. You were on the 23rd Floor today of the 175 Smith Building in Divorce Court at 1:30pm. I was wearing a black long sleeve shirt with the cuffs rolled-up and jeans. We glanced at each other a few times...but it's an awkward place to approach someone. If you had blonde hair and were wearing a short black dress please contact me.

With that Alice started to draw and did not stop until she finished. She scanned the cartoon and emailed it to the newspaper. The next day she opened her paper to the personal ads and started to smile. She suddenly felt in charge of a situation that had gone so very wrong.



"Bob Reggie- remember us years ago?"

"I gave you everything I had, you decided to build a steamroller and run over me. It's been 2 years since we've lived together, and over 6 months since we've seen each other. Finish the damn divorce paperwork, please."


And he did...


Linda Seccaspina 2011



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Comment by Linda Seccaspina on October 27, 2011 at 9:21am
Pretty sad Christine isnt it.
Comment by Oryoki Bowl on October 27, 2011 at 1:06am
God, how sad to steal so many years of someone's life.  I am grateful every day, and I know he loves my (.)(.), and also that he loves me for me.  I have no idea how I would tolerate any of that kind of abuse, but I know so many women do, like a frog in boiling water, I have also been singed a few times.
Comment by Linda Seccaspina on October 26, 2011 at 7:34pm
No Matt is was actually a true story and then I saw the cartoon hahah
Comment by Matt Paust on October 26, 2011 at 7:26pm
You have a phenomenal imagination, Linda.  I'm guessing you saw the cartoon and the story then came to life in your head.
Comment by Linda Seccaspina on October 26, 2011 at 2:47pm

Mary so well said..

marsha.. no way I was documenting anything personally because what friends have gone through is 100% more than mine. The cartoon was from  a woman's dilemma that she spread online. So even if we think this is unique it is not.


kevin.. she "occupied" her life.. without him hahah


Cathy the only one that wins in a divorce are the lawyers.


jack: Are we not destroyed in some ways now? Yup so true

Comment by Jack Heart on October 26, 2011 at 2:09pm

Divorce, drug and alcohol addiction, and existentialism that insinuates
itself into every fiber of the tapestry we call life, that is what
“enlightenment” have given man. Fredrick Nietzsche in his iconoclastic monument
‘Thus Spake Zarathustra’ lamented the invention of the printing press and
predicted that after another century it would destroy the human race.

Comment by Cathy Gast Feroe on October 26, 2011 at 1:32pm
Holy Moly!!  What a mis-nomer 'personal ad" is!  Anything but!!!  Sadly, it seems that marriage has become a breeding ground for the huge business that divorce has become!  Think of it?!  You must engage 1-2 lawyers, accountants, bankers, investors, trust attorneys, plastic surgeon (!) and likely more people with their hands and opinions in the whole darn mess.  Does stop one dead in their tracks...you'd think?!  Gack!  The economies of marriage look like a cake walk compared to its ugly counterpart:  Divorce.  $$$$$  Down the tubes. Make the damn marriage work or don't sign up for it in the first place!  Easy for me to say now!  Hindsight!  Marriage is a contract!  A business agreement!  After the honeymoon, it's all business!  "And they lived happily ever after..."  Only in fairytales.  :0 !!!  It is work!!!
Comment by Kevin Army on October 26, 2011 at 1:14pm
Great! And I'm with Marsha, who did the cartoon?
Comment by Marsha Shearer on October 26, 2011 at 12:56pm
What a story and with so much truth.  So tell more about the cartoon.  Did you do this?  Seriously, how many of us can attest to these basic elements of love gone bad.  You documented it all with delicious irony.
Comment by Mary Katherine Manuel on October 26, 2011 at 11:55am

Great story, and she was so much better off than she was when she found the personal ad, even after all that agony. I heard someone say once: "Do you know why divorce is so expensive?"

"Because its worth it."


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