Married life has it's problems.
There are conflicts about ideas, choices, extremely annoying habits and more.
Some of these are easy to overlook while others can be continually upsetting. Certain mannerisms of one may never suit those of the other, compromise seems unreachable and parting ways looks inevitable. But a rethink of the whole picture from another viewpoint might be worthwhile
There are various definitions of love and one popular version is the desire for two people to spend their lives together, with a continuing compassion for each other through good and bad times.
And bad times there will certainly be.
Joseph Addison (1672-1719) puts it quite nicely this way: "Two persons who have chosen each other out of all the species with a design to be each other's mutual comfort and entertainment have, in that action, bound themselves to be good-humored, affable, discreet, forgiving, patient, and joyful, with respect to each other's frailties and perfections, to the end of their lives."
Many difficulties in a friendship, including marriage, can be put to the back by the act of resignation. By accepting certain personal conditions as being permanent, they will somehow become more acceptable. Eventually the conflicting issues may not be much of a concern at all, thanks to resignation. This leaves lots of room for mutual contentment and love.
For that special condition that won't go away
Has the other's point of view been considered earnestly?
How about a commitment to doing things that are basically unfavorable or annoying - if it will improve the relationship?
What are the other's favorable traits and habits that are being overlooked?
Forget those 'unacceptable' incidents. "To be wronged or robbed is nothing unless you continue to remember it." - Confucius (BC)